REVISING UNFINISHED BUSINESS

There are few things I like talking about more than about reducing stress through the narrative discourse using the first person viewpoint, first, because of the results second, because, once a client has done it, it is almost like starting to write on a clean slate. I would say that doing this work is "a return to life". It is a wonderful way to clean up the past and reach levels of joy and fulfilment never reached before. 

There are many misconceptions about time spent revising one's life. Some people say they don't believe in healing their past.

So, it may be, but when I hear that, I'm thinking they are either unaware of situations that drive them or are stumbling blocks in their actions, or else, there is a fear to go there because THERE IS A STORY.

I'm not out to convince anyone. People who read my blog already know we all have unfinished business, right?

From twenty one years in intervention in a psychotherapeutic setting, what I know is that people spend years and a lot of money attempting to deal or heal a symptom, a problem that has hindered their quality of life instead of trying to get to the source of the issue.

Instead they have done what we all do: talk therapy while withholding emotions; group therapy where we realize others have lived something similar; seminars, where we get to put words and understand the problem and sometimes, its origin, but after doing all this, we still have the problem because all these approaches utilize the conscious mind. BODY work is not seen as important and yet...

Every event that we have ever lived is recorded in our subconscious mind and any repressed emotion is stocked in our body as UNFINISHED BUSINESS.

I'm not even surprised when an ex-colleague and writer in the same line of work says that "the root cause is collecting interest like a bad credit card debt" draining one's vital life energy, limiting options and choices, causing multiple grief and misery.

What about...when anything remotely similar to the unfinished business shows up in our life and we respond as if we were in the past event, oftentimes, without knowing it.

The reason we feel the discomfort is because a part of us wants to heal. The emotions stay on the surface so we can deal with them.

It is our defence mechanism that makes us want to hang on to the STORY rather than deal with it. And so it goes...the pattern stays...and this impacts our life and the quality of our life.

This is the time of year that is most difficult for people. Christmas has come and gone, family events driving "unfinished business" in a big way and people are still struggling to put this under their belt. It might be just an aftertaste now, but it lingers long and slow. Triggers abound to remind them of the unacceptable event(s). 

Emotions, internal self-talk and lack of energy are rampant. People are mostly depressed, blaming the weather, anxious as if the roof will cave in shortly, thinking this is due to the economy, and are trying to overcome this with medication, far-out destinations, anything to keep them from handling their unfinished business.

Doctors are probably prescribing more anti-depressant, anti-anxiety and sleeping pills than at any other time of the year. People are wanting to "shut down" their bodies in an attempt to bypass the problem(s) to be resolved. The pills become a coping strategy.

Committing to therapy and its inner and body work is the best investment anyone can make on oneself. Discover resources you were not even aware of and "get done" with the STORY. Trust yourself and get beyond it, and live a BIGGER, BETTER LIFE.

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